DIY Pool Escapades

We have always had a pool of some sort since we’ve had kids. The typical hard round Mr Turtle pools, blow up pools, pools where only the top ring blows up and as you fill it with water, it rises up to its end shape, and even rectangular pools with ‘U’ bars to hold it up with a solid top frame, and is basically a heavy duty liner as the pool.

Now all of the above have one very important thing in common. None of them were permanent.

Even so, they have always been enough for our family, and the kids friends as they got older. Until this happened…

Last year was the first year we didn’t have a pool and I have to say, I missed it.

We’ve been ‘himmin & hawing’ about whether or not to get another one all year, but with our kids now adults, off and running all the time, the husband didn’t think it would get used enough to justify the time it took for him to keep it clean, the cost of the chemicals, and ‘put up, take down’ energy.

So air conditioning it was. More time spent indoors than out. Especially for me. (My Fibromyalgia coupled with the constant hot flashes that have become a 24 hour pain in my ass since I went into early menopause [breast cancer fuelled by estrogen = all female parts removed, and no medications for relief].

I can’t even begin to express how uncomfortable I am ALL the time in the heat and mugginess. So I don’t go outside unless it’s to take the dogs out.

We are now into the last days of August when we come across an ad for a 24 foot round, above ground pool for a really good price, and it was already tore down. We just had to go pick it up.

After convincing my husband that, yes, it would get used, we bought it. It came with everything it needed and It wasn’t very old.

Since the weather is still scorching hot we decided to put it up this year, knowing that we no longer to have to tear it down every season.

This is the weekend we decided to do it.

Of course,there are no instructions that came with it. The husband watched a YouTube video.

He then spent all last week prepping the ground for the install, making sure it was level.

The frame went up 2 days ago, and we began installing the liner yesterday.

It was a fly by the seat of our pants kinda thing and it didn’t seem to have enough ‘overhang’. There were also places that needed to be patched. Nothing very large, but with those two things, we wanted to be safe instead of sorry.

We called a local pool supply store and they had exactly what we needed in stock. We took a quick trip to town to pick it up.

We had already been fighting with the old liner, and the pool coming out of the track, for hours. We arrived home with the new liner thinking we would pop it in and fill it up, no problems.

Yeah right.

Everyone’s patience was thin at this point.

It was hot. We were tired, and each of us had our own ideas on how it should be done.

You would think we would have looked up how to install a pool liner for an above ground round pool before we attempted it.

I am the only female, therefore the only one willing to seek advice about the correct way to do it.

Tempers, mine especially, flared.

Finally, I looked for a video. I found a great one online but had a hard time getting anyone to actually watch it from start to finish so we could all be on the same page.

Needless to say, whether it was not enough sand along the inside edge, not properly ‘sealing’ the liner to the pool walls and bottom, or by being impatient and putting the water in before we should have, we now have this problem.

Liner pulled on one side

Because we are out of money now and the pool has water in it, we have 2 options…..

1. Drain out all the water…..again, and tear the pool down until next year(we spent our cushion cash on the new liner, and can’t get the extra sand we need) or

2. Put more water in it so we can keep it up and winterize it until next year, then drain it and do it all again.

The husband who HAS put the majority of the time, sweat and tears into the pool, believes number two is our best option.

I think it is going to ruin or rip the new liner and we will have to buy another new one next year.

We’ve got a bet. $100

So when I win the bet, I will happily and lovingly give him back the $100 to use towards the new liner we’re gonna need.

I’ll keep you all updated.

For now at least, it is still possible to use the pool…gently. As long as no one creates any large waves of water that would allow water to flow over the duct taped liner. No canon balls this year.

It is still in the 30’s (high 80’s) here even though it is September, and I will use the pool for as long as I possibly can if the weather remains like this.

Quality, Not Quantity is the key to True Friendships

A person will have many types of friends over the course of their lives.

They fit into categories or stages that change, as you change and grow. Friends fill the need that we all have…to not be alone. To have someone to share good news and bad.

The friend we played with in the sandbox though, doesn’t have to be the same friend you run track with in Highschool.

The changes we go through, our experiences, and the dynamics of each of our family’s are not going to be the same.

Therefore our personalities, our likes and dislikes, our goals and values, won’t be carbon copies of each other. Your friendship needs will evolve.

You’ll have your siblings or cousins, who are usually the first friends you’ll have. This is where you learn the fine art of sharing, communication, and compromise. You’ll learn that it isn’t acceptable to hit your ‘friend’ over the head with your Barbie car, or biting the hand reaching for your favourite Tonka Dump truck, when they reach over to play with it. It doesn’t matter if you were already playing with something entirely different. Your toys are no longer just YOUR toys. You are told you have to share them. Because That is the polite and proper thing to do.

Then there are the school buddies. They kids you play with at recess, eat lunch with or walk back and forth to school with. Casual friends.

The friends that you hang with at school but not after.

Some of these people are your ‘smoking Pit’ buddies. The only thing you have in common is that you are all corralled into a small space on school property , that is barely big enough for all of you. You have to be friendly with a person when you’re crammed in like sardines….when some part of you is touching some part of them.

There’s the friend you have a class or two with. You sit beside them for every class, sharing pens, paper, or maybe homework. You joke about the teachers ‘comb-over’ and how it’s clearly not working.

The really lucky ones will have One Special friend, who you’ve known for years, or even decades, and that has walked alongside you from the very beginning of the friendship. The friend you can tell all your secrets to, and know they are safe. That friend, who, with all of life’s up and downs, will stand beside you, no questions asked. Even if you’re standing in the middle of a manure pile. That same friend who, even if they can’t tolerate the person you’re seeing, or dating, or marrying, will still stand beside you as your Maid-of-Honour, or Best Man and will be there to pick up the pieces of your broken heart if it doesn’t work out.

There are boundaries.

The romantic relationship that a friend may have, is none of your damn business. It shouldn’t have anything to do with the friendship between the two of you.

People have the right to chose. And to chose what they believe is right for them, even if its not what you had hoped for them. As a friend you can voice your opinion but you have no right to interfere.

As a friend, no matter what happens, you should just be there.

That is my definition of a True friend.

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